This goal is going to be very fun to teach my Honor Students. I see that most students strive to "win." Whether this means being the best in class, being cool in front of the teacher or in front of their peers/friends. Some of the relationships that suffer between students and other students come from the struggle to win. Like Dr. P states in his lecture, there are times in when both people lose; something happens that creates both people to be upset and no one gets anything. I sadly see this at times between my teenage students. I am hoping that the Honors Students will take this habit and enlighten the masses at HSHMC. It would greatly help to continue the Restorative Practices culture at the school and character for a successful future. Clearly this image will help students as it did for me! | I am shocked that every week there is a new habit that directly applies to what is happening in my life professionally. I am very competitive and I DO want to WIN. However, I have been in some LOSE-LOSE relationships where I would rather leave with nothing than let the other person get anything. Clearly, those relationships are toxic and end horribly. I am thankful that has never happened professionally with a colleague, but I have seen glimpses of this in my first few years as a teacher between "difficult" students. My mentality in the beginning of my career: "If you want to do that, then I am going to take you down." This is pretty embarrassing to admit today, but this was before I learned about Restorative Practices and saw myself in a leadership position. Now that Restorative Practices is a part of the school culture and who I am, there little to no interactions like that anymore. I mention Restorative Practices a lot in this reflection because I see these ideas being enter-twinned. Relationships can be harmed, that is why is important to say affirmative statements, give more than excepted and create a non-competitive relationship. I commit to continue to take the competitiveness out of my relationships between my students and me. This will ensure that solutions are solved on the needs of us all. |
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2/19/2015 12:51:25 pm
Joanna, this habit, "Think Win-Win," is a really profound shift in thinking, both for students, and for ourselves. Just as you've described yourself as being very competitive, I, too, have a competitive streak that can be damaging to others at times. This dialogue we've been engaged in with our students has been very revealing for me, and I'm beginning to look at things very differently over the past few weeks. I would love to hear more about how you're engaging your honor students with this habit, as well as if you're noticing any shifts in student paradigms through this process of teaching the 7 Habits. Continue the great work!
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Bill
2/19/2015 10:40:31 pm
Joanna,
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Bill
2/19/2015 10:40:40 pm
Joanna,
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